You wonder how to get your child talking, since you often get a “Yes”, “No”, or “I don’t know”. It is worth to ask yourself the question when the last time was you shared your feelings or how you felt with your child. We need to keep age-appropriate sharing of feelings in mind while we give our children the example that talking about how we feel goes both ways.
Take 1 Connecting through questions
Parent: “How was school?”
Child: “Fine.”
Take 2 Connecting through questions
Parent: “Hey, I’m happy to see you. I see spots of paint on your pants, what have you been up to today?”
Child: “Hi mom, we painted in art class.”
Parent: “That sounds nice, I see you painted something red?”
Child: “Yes, we made autumn leaves today. I used loads of colours.”
Parent: “That sounds nice, I already see you worked hard. I look forward to the result!”
Take 2.2 Connecting through questions
Parent: “Hey, I’m happy to see you. I’m happy I got here on time; it was crazy busy on the roads.”
Child: “Hi mom, that’s a shame.”
Parent: “At least I had my favourite playlist in the car. What was the worst part of your day?”
Child: “I guess not being able to go outside because it rained very hard.”
Parent: “Hmm, I see. Sitting inside all day can be frustrating. What was the best part of your day?”
Child: “Playing games with my friends, although one child wasn’t there.”
Parent: “What happened?”
Child: “She hurt her leg in the weekend so she couldn’t come in today.”
Parent: “O my, what do you think of this?”
Child: “I feel sorry for her, we started making a get-well card at school. Can we visit her?”
Parent: “That’s a nice idea, I’ll ask her parents when would be good for them.”
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